What’s Love Got To Do With It?
(click on the pic to listen to it) I am going to give you some insights to the male psyche. If you (ladies) get these 12 things you will help your man out immensely. If you don’t have a man you love or even like, it still will be helpful in dealing with the male gender.
1. For men, shopping is not a sport.
2. Anything you wear is fine. Really. If a man is in a relationship with you, he will like whatever you wear.
3. Anything a man said six-eight months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
4. If something a man said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, the man meant the other one.
5. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during the commercials. Otherwise, a man will not be fully listening.
6. Subtle hints don’t work. Sometimes men really just don’t get it.
7. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must …. It’s just blackmail.
8. Most guys own two or three pairs of shoes. What makes you think he would be any good at choosing which pair out of 30,would look great with what you are wearing?
9. You can either ask a man to do something OR tell him how you want it done. It’s impossible for a man to do both.
10. If a man likes you, he doesn’t want to mess it up but he will more than likely mess it up. Not on purpose but sometimes he just does.
11. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color . Pumpkin is also a fruit. Many men have no idea what 
mauve is.
12. If a man asks what is wrong and you say “nothing,” He will act like nothing’s wrong. A man knows you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle, besides he knows you will bring it up again later.
When I first met my wife – I fell in love. I had our wedding planned after 7 months of knowing her and we had only been out on a couple of dates. Falling in love is easy to do. If you are living and breathing and you have a pulse you can fall in love.
As I was browsing through the internet I learned that it only takes 4 minutes to fall in love. Before my wife, I fell in love with my 3rd grade teacher. I was in love with her until a couple of weeks into the school year when I found out she was married. I fell in love a couple more times before my wife entered the picture. A girl broke my heart and I broke another’s girls heart.
It is easy to fall in love. It only takes 4 minutes.
Then Tina Turner teaches us love has nothing to do with it. Listen the lyrics of this song (sing it if you would like :))
You must understand through the touch of your hand
Makes my pulse react
That it’s only the thrill of boy meetin’ girl
Opposites attract
It’s physical
Only logical
You must try to ignore that it means more than that
What’s love got to do, got to do with it?
What’s love but a second-hand emotion?
What’s love got to do with it, got to do with it?
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
Come on Tina ….. Love has everything to do with it. It is not a second-hand emotion …. that is ….. if you want to stay in love.
Falling in love is easy but if you want to stay in love it becomes a decision. In the culture and time that we live making a covenant is becoming not the norm. People are choosing to live together rather than make a covenant together. Refusing to make a covenant is refusing to make the decision to stay in love. It only takes 4 minutes to fall in love but it takes a life changing decision to stay in love.
2000 years ago Jesus gave us the foundation for what it takes to stay in love. It’s so simple it’s brilliant. It so obvious that we miss it. When you see it you say …. Really? That’s it. There has to be more to it!
In John 13:34 Jesus says, “So now I am giving you a new commandment; Love each other”
Jesus is taking what we normally use as a noun and turns it into a verb.
• We fall in love.
• We make love.
• In the month of February we celebrate love.
Jesus is giving us an imperative. He is giving us a commandment: Love each other.
Newspaper columnist and minister George Crane tells of a wife who came into his office full of hatred toward her husband. “I do not only want to get rid of him, I want to get even. Before I divorce him, I want to hurt him as much as he has me.” Dr. Crane suggested an ingenious plan “Go home and act as if you really love your husband. Tell him how much he means to you. Praise him for every decent trait. Go out of your way to be as kind, considerate, and generous as possible. Spare no efforts to please him, to enjoy him. Make him believe you love him. After you’ve convinced him of your undying love and that you cannot live without him, then drop the bomb. Tell him that you’re getting a divorce. That will really hurt him.” With revenge in her eyes, she smiled and exclaimed, “Beautiful, beautiful. Will he ever be surprised!” And she did it with enthusiasm. Acting “as if.” For two months she showed love, kindness, listening, giving, reinforcing, sharing. When she didn’t return, Crane called. “Are you ready now to go through with the divorce?”
“Divorce?” she exclaimed. “Never! I discovered I really do love him.”
Her actions had changed her feelings. Motion resulted in emotion. The ability to love is established not so much by fervent promise as often repeated deeds.
A big reason why a lot of people fall out of love is because they turned love into an object, a noun. The feeling of love has withered away and now the reality hits, to stay in love you realize it is going to cost you something.
It’s going to cost you a change in attitude.
It’s going to cost you a change in your routine.
You gotta think of someone other than yourself.
I Corinthians 13 tells what LOVE has to do with it. 
• Love is patient
• Love is kind
• Love does not demand its one way
• Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs
• Love figures out how to serve the other person in a meaningful way.
• Love is not jealous, not envious,
• Love is gentle.
These are all the things we are to do to stay in love and make love happen.
A couple I counseled last year were within days of getting a divorce. I met with both the husband and the wife. I met with them separately for a number of weeks. They decided to turn their love into a verb. They decided to love each other.
We need to make love happen. It just doesn’t happen. Just because we can fall in love in 4 minutes and just because we can say the words “I love you” with extreme ease doesn’t mean we love the other person. Jesus is telling us to do something to make love happen. We can’t just sit around and say we love each other. We need to demonstrate it even when we don’t like the other person.
Jesus continues to teach us, “just as I have loved you, you should love one another.” Let’s think about this for a minute. Did Jesus just say ‘I love you” or did He demonstrate it? What if Jesus would have just said the words and not followed it up with action? Would people have taken him seriously? He says just as I have loved you, love each other the same way.
• Jesus loved others knowing he would not be loved back.
• Jesus loved others knowing they would fail and disappoint him.
• Jesus loved others knowing they would nail him to cross.
If you want to stay in love – love the other the way I (Jesus) have loved you!
If you want to stay in love, Jesus says in Ephesians 5, submit to another.
No, no, you must be reading the Bible wrong! It says wives submit to your husbands. You need to read the whole chapter and not just the first verse you like. In that same chapter vs. 21 it says, “and further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
When you are submitting to another out of your reverence for Christ,
• It doesn’t make a difference who is right or wrong in an argument.
• It doesn’t make a difference who says I’m sorry first. Someone needs to say it.
• It doesn’t make a difference who wins the argument.
The quicker you can submit to another – the quicker you can kiss and make up.
Once I figured that out, I was able to make love a verb. I was able to humble myself and clean the toilet. I was able to humble myself and say I was sorry. I was able to serve without expecting anything in return.
We are good at falling in love. We are not that good at staying in love. We gotta work at it.
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